An Unsticky Situation


By now, it's no secret that I'm a caregiver for my mom.

That gig used to be pretty part-time until wham-bam it suddenly became more full on two weeks ago.

What this means is that I've had to quickly shift gears, change plans, and pivot my focus and priorities. Some of what this requires of me is—I'm not gonna lie—really hard. Some is less so.

But here's the thing: When you have all the time in the world, everything takes longer. When you have split seconds, it's amazing how quickly you decide and move forward.

As someone who helps other entrepreneurs plan, prioritize, and progress with their growth and development, I'm intimately familiar with all the ways we humans avoid, delay, and distract ourselves from making vital decisions—especially ones that we think are 'make or break.'

What if we're wrong? What if it costs us money, time, our pride, or something else? What if, worst of all, it makes no difference whatsoever and we wasted all that energy and anguish?!

In these Yoda-like weeks for me of, "Do or do not. There is no try," there is no room for what-ifs, no space for prevarication. I must decide what to do or not do immediately and keep implementing, adapting, and preparing for what's next.

Caregiving, like entrepreneurship, is a learn-on-the-job kind of thing. Even as prepared as you may believe yourself to be for what the job requires and asks of you, it's different in practice than in theory.

It's one reason why not everyone is cut out to be their own boss, let alone the head of a thriving enterprise.

If you're stuck in neutral on a particular aspect of your business development or growth there are a couple of things you can try to shift yourself into drive (or reverse, as the case may be).

  1. Meditate on it and on your feelings about it. See if you can pinpoint what's keeping you stuck. Is it uncertainty, fear, or something else?
  2. Get feedback from trusted allies, partners, and, well, someone like me. Get objective input, help defining the pros and cons, and clarity around your next best move.
  3. Just do something even if it's not going to move the needle for you. Research shows that taking action, any action, helps to get us 'unstuck' psychologically.

While in some ways, this week blew up a lot of the plans I had for the next few weeks, it also catapulted me into high velocity, hyper-focused action, which, if I'm being honest, is a welcome change of pace.

And while I would not wish this situation on anyone else, there's something refreshing about simply having no time to doubt myself, think twice, or dither over possibilities, probabilities, and alternatives.

If you're feeling stuck and would like my trusted feedback and guidance to get moving, I'd welcome the opportunity to support you!

Schedule a laser coaching session with me today.

Until next time,

PS - Last week I assured you, with the right processes in place, You Can Count On Me & others.

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I help entrepreneurs leapfrog over the typical potholes that derail most small businesses with inspiration, motivation, education, and support across a wide range of business topics drawn from over a decade of running my own business, teaching entrepreneurship for the City of New York, and coaching and consulting privately with dozens of women and minority small business owners. Honestly, why go it alone when help is an email away?

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